Category: Tips&tricks

  • Your First Pounce: A Beginner’s Guide to Exploring Kitten Play Safely

    Your First Pounce: A Beginner’s Guide to Exploring Kitten Play Safely

    Your First Pounce: A Beginner’s Guide to Exploring Kitten Play Safely

    Have you ever felt a tug of curiosity about a world less ordinary, a space where you can explore different facets of yourself? Perhaps you’ve heard whispers of kitten play and wondered what it’s all about. It’s more than just an activity; it’s an exploration of identity, a dance of connection, and a journey into a realm where playfulness and genuine intimacy intertwine. If that spark of curiosity has ignited within you, you’re in the perfect place.

    This isn’t about fitting into a box or following a script. It’s about finding your unique expression, your inner feline, whether that’s in the role of a playful kitten or a nurturing owner. The beauty of kitten play lies in its boundless possibilities and the profound connections it can foster.

    Taking Your First Steps: Where Do You Begin?

    The thought of stepping into something new can feel both exhilarating and a little daunting. The key is to start with a positive approach, focusing on safety, consent, and communication (SSC/RACK). These aren’t just concepts; they are the bedrock of any fulfilling and respectful exploration in this space.

    Before you even think about tails or collars, take a moment for self-reflection. What draws you to kitten play? Is it the desire for playful energy, the comfort of being cared for, or the joy of nurturing another? Understanding your own interests and boundaries is your first, most crucial step. It’s about tuning into your authentic desires and honoring them. For a deeper dive and comprehensive guidance, consider exploring resources like the Kitten Play for Beginners: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Fun book available on Amazon, a fantastic starting point for those eager to learn more.

    Gear Up for Your Adventure: More Than Just Aesthetics

    When you picture kitten play, certain images might spring to mind: adorable ears, swishy tails, perhaps a soft collar. While these kitten play accessories certainly add to the aesthetic and help embody the role, their purpose goes beyond just looking the part. They can be powerful tools for immersion and self-expression.

    Think about how a simple set of ears can instantly shift your mindset into a more playful, uninhibited space. A collar, when consensually chosen and worn, can symbolize a bond or a dynamic, deepening the experience for both participants. Don’t feel pressured to invest heavily right away. Even DIY options can be incredibly effective in helping you explore what resonates with you.

    The Playful Exploration: Initial Activities to Try

    So, you’ve reflected, you understand the importance of SSC/RACK, and maybe you’ve even acquired a cute pair of ears. Now what? The “what” is where the fun truly begins! Many initial kitten play activities are simple, intuitive, and deeply rewarding.

    Consider starting with:

    • Feeding and Nurturing: This could be as simple as an owner gently offering a kitten a favorite snack, or a kitten playfully requesting treats. It fosters a sense of care and dependency.
    • Petting and Grooming: Soft strokes, gentle brushing, or even playful “grooming” can be incredibly soothing and bond-strengthening. It’s about physical touch in a way that aligns with the chosen dynamic.
    • Play Games: Think lighthearted chasing, playful wrestling, or hide-and-seek. These activities tap into the natural agility and playfulness of felines.
    • Vocalization and Communication: Experiment with purrs, meows, and other kitten-like sounds. This can add a layer of authenticity and fun to the interaction.

    Remember, every interaction should be built on enthusiastic consent. Before engaging, talk to your partner. What feels good to them? What are their limits? This ongoing conversation ensures a safe and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

    Finding Your Community: Connecting with Others

    For many, kitten play is an experience shared with others. Finding like-minded individuals is a journey that requires both discernment and an open heart. While the internet offers vast communities, prioritize your safety above all else.

    Consider exploring:

    • Online Forums and Communities: Reputable online platforms dedicated to the pet play community can be a great place to connect, ask questions, and learn from experienced individuals. Look for those with clear rules and moderation.
    • Local Munches and Events: These in-person social gatherings are designed for people to meet in a casual, non-play setting. They offer a fantastic opportunity to gauge personalities and build trust before exploring any play dynamics.
    • Trusted Friends: Sometimes, the most comfortable and safest entry point is with someone you already know and trust implicitly.

    When looking for a partner or community, always emphasize vetting and open communication. Don’t rush into anything. Take your time to get to know people, understand their boundaries, and ensure there’s a foundation of mutual respect and trust.

    Your Quick Start Guide to Kitten Play

    To help you on your exciting journey, here’s a quick reference table outlining essential considerations and actions:

    CategoryEssential Consideration / Action
    Mindset & SafetyUnderstand SSC/RACK principles (Safety, Sanity, Consent/Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). Prioritize your well-being.
    Self-Reflection: Identify your desires, boundaries, and what roles (kitten, owner, switch) resonate with you.
    Communication: Establish clear, ongoing communication with partners, including safe words and aftercare discussions.
    PracticalitiesBasic Gear: Consider simple items like ears, tails, or a collar to enhance immersion. DIY options are perfectly fine.
    Environment: Choose a safe, comfortable, and private space for play.
    Initial PlayStart Small: Begin with gentle activities like petting, feeding, or light play games.
    Experiment: Try different activities to see what feels most authentic and enjoyable for you and your partner.
    CommunityResearch: Explore reputable online forums or local groups.
    Vet Thoroughly: Take time to get to know potential partners or community members before engaging in play. Trust your instincts.

    Stepping into the world of kitten play is a unique and personal adventure. It’s about embracing vulnerability, exploring your desires, and finding joy in playful connection. With a strong foundation of safety, consent, and open communication, your first exploration can be the start of a truly empowering and delightful journey. What aspect of this exploration excites you the most?

  • Aftercare

    Aftercare

    Aftercare is an important theme in BDSM – related content.

    But what is Aftercare?

    Aftercare is doing whatever you need to „come back to reality“  after practicing bdsm. It is an important time to calm down. Sometimes bdsm experience include a lot of feelings – sometimes adrenaline too. So that is the part where everybody involved can calm down.

    Not every session needs aftercare. But sometimes you can have a kind of „dropped“ feeling after a session. That’s where aftercare should take place.

    It strongly depends on the person and the feelings you experience. So in the end aftercare is a really personal theme and everybody has to find out what works for them best.

    Note! Aftercare is not only for the submissive person, it can also be a need of the dominant person.

    Aftercare after Kittenplay

    Sometimes some aftercare routines can be a good way to get yourself out of kittenspace. That can be some simple cuddling or drinking a cup of tea.  But sometimes people need more – as an example after a long time on the ground on your knees or some kind of spanking. There, you can put on some lotion and put yourself in cozy blankets laying on the bed. Take a warm shower or  bath. Just find something that feels relaxing for you. Other things that are a good go to is snacks because you want to keep your nutrition up, relaxing music and even naps can be a very big world of difference and a very healing process for the individuals involved.

    Kittenplay as Aftercare

    When you feel well in kitten play that can also be your option to calm down. There are several possibilities to calm down as a kitten. If it’s cuddling with your caregiver, or just laying in some cozy blankets and have some snacks. Pro tip, putting a blanket in a dryer for a few minutes can be a very comforting thing. Along with taking a nice hot bath or watching your favorite tv shows and or movies is also a great way to come back down from that high level of energy. In the end it depends on you and what will make you feel well. So if playing  with some feather toys  relax you – that’s also fine!

    So all in all – Aftercare is important to calm down when your emotions got high during some  activities. It it not necessary after everything and it is also very personal. Just try out some different things and when you find something, put it in a little bag so that you can grab it every time you need it.

    But do not try too put your caregiver in a bag, I heard they don’t appreciate that. 😉

    I hope the article has given you some inspiration – one personal tip: For me,
    🍫 chocolate is a thing that always works.

  • Rashes In Kitten Play!

    Rashes In Kitten Play!

    Are you someone with very sensitive skin? Great so am I! Don’t fret a thing! I have some advice!

    As I’m sure many are aware there is lots of people allergic to things like peanuts, honey, latex and the list goes on and on.

    But what do you do if you find yourself allergic to the PetPlay gear you have?

    The safest option would be to throw away whatever is causing skin irritations.

    No kitty wants an owwie let alone a burning one.

    But then where does that leave you?

    Here’s my advice on dealing with skin allergies.


    Try to write down what you are or might be possibly allergic too and be careful but give yourself a test, I learned growing up testing for rashes is important to keep an eye on things and how your body reacts. Just gently touch your arm with something you might be allergic too and wait a few minutes, allergies are usually fast and happen right away. If a rash does occur then take off the material immediately.
    (Usually signs of rashes are: red marks or hives / itching / burning sensations)

    Run your arm under cool water to calm it down, if you fear you might be in danger keep medicine (anti-histamines) and an Epipen near by or even do it with a friend or someone you trust. Safety comes first even in researching your body so be safe!

    Allergic to latex? don’t use latex gloves, latex based gear or latex condoms in sexual scenes.

    There’s safer options like rubber gloves and polyurethane condoms. These are conmanly found in most drug stores and sex stores along with online condom selling stores.

    “But what about my gear? I spent so much money / have such an attachment.” I hear you asking, I can empathize, I have had to throw out a lot and I wish I had someone to talk to during it.

    If you love the way a certain thing looks, find something similar, sometimes you can find things even better and cheaper priced but not lacking in quality. While I know Amazon was under fire a lot recently it is still not a bad site to find things, Etsy is always the dream of many Pet Players. As always try and make sure the things you get are of good quality because they’ll be less likely to be at risk of a rash

    “But what materials are likely to give me a rash?” I’m glad you asked! Latex is of course the big one I want to address but things like gold, silver, nickle, costume jewellery and things that make you sweat a lot or rub up against and chafe your skin are all a high risk of causing a rash to happen. Stainless steel is your friend, fake furs are your friend, fleece is your friend, they’re not usually high in allergens where as real fur animal tails and ears can cause allergies and rashes, not fun!

    “Okay but what if I can’t find anything I like?” I have been there, I understand, that feeling sucks and makes you feel like you wasted your time, but if you keep looking I promise you will find things. Trust me there. I have found great things in the strangest places! So don’t give up! Your dream rash free gear is out there waiting for you to find it!

    “What if I have a rash before a scene with my Dominant?” I hear ya, that can feel embarrassing but don’t fret, If you have a Dominant who cares about you they’re going to be supportive and either stop the scene entirely or continue with alterations to not agitate your rash, Remember the relationship between you and an Owner is 50/50 and a two way street, if you have a rash and decide to cancel plans, that is OK. Safety and health come first and your Owner may even be able to help nurse you back to healthy skin if you so choose to have them help.

    “What if I don’t want their help or don’t have an owner?” No problem!

    Here’s how to care for a rash all on your own!

    First figure out what kind of rash do you have?

    Is it itchy?

    Burning?

    Bumps? (hives)

    Or super red? / warm to touch (histamine signs)

    If itchy, Aloe is lovely to apply as is taking cool baths with oatmeal products you know you’re okay to use and milk in baths can hep mellow your skin and make it softer. Calamine lotion is also a big help and famously known for helping children with chicken pocks!

    Burning? Run cool water on the rash, not ice cold but cool luke warm water helps this a lot I find and try to be careful with clothes that may touch the effected area.

    Bumps? Again, Aloe , Aloe , Aloe , that green plant is your friend if you have rashes and Calamine lotion will also help

    Super red and warm? I call these heat rashes and I find cool water, cool baths and milk baths help calm it down a lot.

    Anti-histamines are also normally going to help any type of rash but if you find a rash isn’t going away at home, be sure to get seen by a Doctor for better advice/medicine if you so need